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Thinking Type 7: “The Enthusiast”
Orientation: Thinking
Expression: Acting
Subordinate: own Feeling
Seeks: Happiness
Short circuits in storm state:
Acting – Thinking
Feeling – Feeling

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Thinking Type 7 is the last one of the “thinkers” and thus the last one whose childhood distress lied in lacking security. They didn’t feel held enough by their caregivers, especially when they were going through emotionally difficult times as a child – maybe because their parents were emotionally unstable and therefore only could deal with their child when it was in a good mood. In any case, the child experienced a loss of support as soon as they were in a bad mood, and even more when they felt hurt by something. Like this, the child developed the self perception of being “unbearable” when in pain. A feeling of happiness on the other hand meant security and thus the solution to their childhood distress.

In order to protect itself, their psyche found a way of self-supplying this feeling of happiness. With the primary short circuit Acting – Thinking (AT) he took control of the threatened area of security: He controlled his thinking and and thus self-supplied the feelings of happiness through preplanning. This self stimulation was supported by his secondary short circuits, the distancing from responsibility (TA) and the empowerment of feeling (FF).

catch-me posterAs soon as this pattern exceeds its function of childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if a person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. In the following, Leonadro DiCaprio playing Frank Abagnale in “Catch Me If You Can” (2002) will serve as an example of a thinking type 7 with storm warning.

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List 7 AT

Thinking type 7 manipulates the thinking. In this state, he compulsively controls his thoughts and he does it in a way that creates a feeling of happiness – and thus security:

– Planning: His thoughts are directed at compiling an exiting schedule full of happiness stimulating highlights. This makes unhealthy 7 a restless organizer for colorful, extraordinary group activities, which he simultaneously runs and “enjoys”.

– Situational: He compulsively sets his focus to things that bring him instant gratification: bright, loud, beautiful, exiting and new things. Thereby, it becomes apparent that his attention serves this purpose in an exclusive way: concentrating on constant and trivial things out of necessity is not only hard but very stressful to him. The reason for this is that he feels like his security is in jeopardy (keyword: ADD).

-Inspiration: In order to maintain a constant flow of new enjoyable experiences, he’s always on the prowl for inspiration and scans his environment for for sources of it.

Because a type 7 in storm state depends on stimulation with happy thoughts, he not only manipulates his own thoughts but also acts as a charming thought-policeman towards others. Happiness-stimulating thoughts are good, are being thought and encouraged in others – with missionary zeal. On the other hand, thoughts concerning the more “boring”, earnest or even darker aspects of life are attacked instantly. Unhealthy type 7 uses them to prove his ability to change them into something “positive”.

The bandwidth of impacts on others thereby ranges from somewhat exhausting encounters, in which one gets coached unasked with attitude correcting success-thoughts, over the many rather harmless books on “positive thinking” to more serious situations where sick sevens manage to gather large crowds of followers by indoctrinating them with a unique but short-sighted success ideology.

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List 7 TA

Thinking type 7 in storm state distances himself from the consequences of his actions, from responsibility. Especially, this comes to light in committed relationships, where it comes down to be there for each other in good times as in bad. As this is perceived as very stressful by the unhealthy seven, they take flight as soon as the relationship seems to demand for commitment. The following wedding scene depicts in an exaggerated way, what happens as a literal flight in romantic relationships and as a flight into work – oftentimes resulting in workaholism.

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List 7 FF

Type 7 amplifies feelings of happiness and identifies with them. Therefore, he approaches others in an exceptionally charming and endearing way. In his unhealthy state, this is done only to the degree in which it serves his hedonism. Therefore his accented emotionality reveals to be of strikingly egoistic character in the long run.

The interpersonal motto of an unhealthy seven: flirting yes, because it means thrilling instant gratification; commitment no, because the needs of another person interfere with his sophisticated excitement schedule.

This is how a feeling type 7 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there for them. A person who functions like this restlessly jumps from event to event, and if they happen to be there physically, their thoughts are already with the next spectacle instead of with the life of their children. These kids feel their impassive flight from responsibility and get manipulated to support this parent’s excitement addiction as means to this end.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who’s never really there? To someone who checks out as soon commitment is required? Someone whose emotionality is all about his own instant self gratification at the bottom line? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: ADD/ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

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All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “Catch Me If You Can” (2002) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: DreamWorks Pictures

Local – Storm Warning: 7

Local – Storm Warning: 4

Feeling Type 4: “The Individualist”
Orientation: Feeling
Expression: Thinking
Subordinate: own Acting
Seeks: Authenticity
Short circuits in storm state:
Acting – Feeling
Thinking – Thinking

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Feeling type 4 is the third one who’s childhood distress was emotional coldness. But unlike the others, their solution was to actively take control of the realm of feeling (AF). They dominated their emotions. To keep this self-supply with emotional warmth in place, their two secondary short circuits came into play: the enforcement of their own will (FA) and the distancing from facts and objectivity (TT). Whenever needed, the psyche of the little child shut down in this manner and thus survived.

eternal sunshine posterWhenever this pattern exceeds its function of childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if the person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. As an example of a feeling type 3 with storm warning, we’ll take a look at the character Clementine in “Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind” (2004), brilliantly played by Kate Winslet.

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List 4 AF

With his A- short circuit, feeling type 4 in storm state is one of the “control addicted self supporters”. These are the ones who establish domination over the given function in order to supply themselves with it. With feeling type 4 it’s the realm of emotions – it’s about the self-supply with warmth. The person gives themselves the favorable “being seen” which they lacked in childhood.

In doing so, they not only mirror themselves but also pushes others into being mirrors to. magical mirrors, which only mirror pleasant things at all times. Dependent on this constant positive feedback they compulsively control how others see them. They have to be remarkably unique and everyone around them has to bee charmed and seduced into reacting positively to this uniqueness. Sometimes this is done passive and indirectly, at other times through emotional power-play, focused at quickly deepening the felt connection of the “mirror”.

If they succeed, the addiction is satisfied and except for a little boredom, everything’s fine. But what if there is no feedback? Or even a negative one? At this point, the two other short circuits instantly come to the rescue.

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List 4 FA

The short circuit Feeling – Acting causes the boost of conflict. The identification with their own will and it’s enforcement. And because this short circuit serves the emotional self supply, it’s expressed in form of provocations and emotional drama. In fights that are focused on achieving a positively felt self-image as their end game. Therefore, feeling type 4 becomes a true drama queen when in stormy. Because this dominant demeanor seems to be coming out of nowhere, it’s often surprising and irritating to the people around them.

The triggering reason for it is insufficient positive mirroring. The logic behind it: “if you don’t want to be my magic mirror, i will emotionally push you into being wrong and supply myself with the good feeling in relation to you which i depend on”.

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List 4 TT

The second short circuit which activates in case of lacking mirroring is Thinking – Thinking. The distancing from reality, logic and coherence. At this level, there are no consistent actions or statements. Also this short circuit serves the self-supply with emotional warmth and a positive self-image and expresses as a retreat into fantasy. A fantasy, in which the self-image feels good and only good. Observed from the outside, this retreat sometimes looks exaggeratedly childlike and cheerful, sometimes very melancholic:

Distancing from thinking has a side effect – loss of the sense of identity, the feeling for “i-am-me and you-are-you”. These boundaries collapse. This side effect leads to depressive episodes, in which the person feels like they are falling apart. Also now, there has to be someone who cures this negative feeling by his mirroring from the outside. Someone who takes the pieces of the broken self-image and puzzles them together again. Flawlessly.

This is how a feeling type 4 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there for them. People who function like this, may be very emotionally present, but not for their children. Instead, they do anything to transform them into disappearing, dishonest people who only “mirror” good things. And because they live in ever-changing, self-idealizing dream worlds, they fail at supplying the stability which the child needs for its healthy development.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who’s emotionality is only oriented on receiving constant idealizing attention? To someone who gets shockingly aggressive whenever there’s a stop in this flow? Someone who spends most of his time with you in inaccessible dreamworlds? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Sunny greetings


All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind” (2004) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: Focus Features

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Local – Strom Warning: 2

Feeling Type 2: “The Helper”
Orientation: Feeling
Expression: Acting
Subordinate: own Thinking
Seeks: Appreciation
Short circuits in storm state:
Feeling – Feeling
Thinking – Acting

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The childhood distress of a feeling type 2 was coldness. The supply of emotional warmth was not secured. The childhood problem was on the emotional level. Because he was not able to solve this problem by communicating with his parents “outside” of himself, he had to deal with it internally. And he had three possibilities: Loving the own feeling (FF), to distance himself from his own feelings (TF) or to control and dominate, to actively alter his feelings (AF). Feeling type 2 is the one who solved it in the first way.

He “loved” the feelings, amplified them, short circuited the feeling energy with itself. The other psychological functions, thinking and acting connected with each other – AT: he controlled the thinking  and – TA: distanced himself from his actions. Whenever necessary, he shut down in this manner and thus secured his survival.

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As soon as this pattern exceeds its function of self-protection in childhood and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if the person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. As an example of a feeling type 2 with storm warning, let’s take a look at the main character in “Patch Adams” (1998), played by Robin Williams.

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List 2 FF

Hunter “Patch” Adams is focused on the emotional world, identifies with his role as the one who is tuned to the feelings of the other person, brings them out, amplifies them, appreciates them and therefore receives appreciation. Whenever he does this, his own problems fade away. He distracts himself from his own and the people at the mental hospital from their own illnesses. As long as he can be this emotional patch, he does not feel the reason for his own stay at the hospital – his suicidality. It’s his drug. If he gets it, he gets a manic, self-aggrandising pride-rush. if he lacks it, he gets depressed. In order to get it, he needs sick and needy people, because without them, there’s no need for a patch.

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List 2 AT

The thinking, the factual level gets flexibly adapted to his addiction to emotional appreciation. in the following scene, Patch is at the university and does his study of medicine which took the place of his own psychotherapy.

Patch lectures his fellow student: “The point is: if you wanna become a doctor, you have to learn to treat the patient as well as the disease, that’s why we have to dive into people – wade into the sea of humanity, Truman.”. Here, he just humbly redefines the purpose of clinical medicine. And replaces it’s objective with one that enables him to get his “kick” as a “doctor”. In the movie he makes many similar statements. To make the point about the flexible factual level (colloquially: bullshitting), let’s take a quick look at this one:

Doctors treat diseases. That’s their job. If they go beyond that, they cross personal boundaries. If someone wants to be “treated” as a person, he visits a psychotherapist. amongst other things because he knows, that a psychotherapist has the needed competence and knows well about intimate boundaries in a therapeutical context. What patch does, is neither treating diseases nor treating “people”. He temporarily distracts them by connecting with them and make them laugh. The ability to emotionally vibe with a person is a valuable one. And is very important on the level of intimate friendships. But that’s something different than the corner stone of clinical medicine.

Patch blends these levels. Because he is addicted to distract himself from his own problems. And therefore needs a socially acceptable reason for his behavior.

Not only when justifying his actions does he make use of a freely adaptable thinking. It also serves in the acquisition of his “drug”. It’s emotional opportunism: Inner values, for which he seems to stand as a person, are changed in the blink of an eye and adapted to the environment. These values can be anything. In this case, the emulated value is “eating cow”.

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List 2 TA

Patch distances himself from his actions, denies responsibility. In the following scene, patch is confronted by his fellow student who now works for him in a non-approved hospital. He disagrees with Patch’s behavior of just leaving the patients after an employee, who also was Patch’s girlfriend was killed by a mentally ill patient as she visited him in his house.

Events, that were in Patch’s responsibility, are projected onto the evil nature of people and “god’s creation”. instead of taking responsibility, reconsider the concept and caring for his patients, he flees into the next creative “patch”-opportunity at the medical university. There, he gets applause and appreciation.

That’s how a type 2 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there. A person who functions like this, is not really there but restlessly on their hunt for the next “fix”. One cannot know, who they really are because their inner values change from environment to environment. Children need stability. And they certainly need parents who are able to recognize their responsibility.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who is never really “there”? To someone whose inner values you cannot get to know? Someone who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions but instead projects onto everyone and everything? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy

This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: Bipolar Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, Codependency, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

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All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “Patch Adams” and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: Universal Pictures (ZEFR) CPR for Diaphana

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