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Thinking Type 7: “The Enthusiast”
Orientation: Thinking
Expression: Acting
Subordinate: own Feeling
Seeks: Happiness
Short circuits in storm state:
Acting – Thinking
Feeling – Feeling

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Thinking Type 7 is the last one of the “thinkers” and thus the last one whose childhood distress lied in lacking security. They didn’t feel held enough by their caregivers, especially when they were going through emotionally difficult times as a child – maybe because their parents were emotionally unstable and therefore only could deal with their child when it was in a good mood. In any case, the child experienced a loss of support as soon as they were in a bad mood, and even more when they felt hurt by something. Like this, the child developed the self perception of being “unbearable” when in pain. A feeling of happiness on the other hand meant security and thus the solution to their childhood distress.

In order to protect itself, their psyche found a way of self-supplying this feeling of happiness. With the primary short circuit Acting – Thinking (AT) he took control of the threatened area of security: He controlled his thinking and and thus self-supplied the feelings of happiness through preplanning. This self stimulation was supported by his secondary short circuits, the distancing from responsibility (TA) and the empowerment of feeling (FF).

catch-me posterAs soon as this pattern exceeds its function of childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if a person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. In the following, Leonadro DiCaprio playing Frank Abagnale in “Catch Me If You Can” (2002) will serve as an example of a thinking type 7 with storm warning.

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List 7 AT

Thinking type 7 manipulates the thinking. In this state, he compulsively controls his thoughts and he does it in a way that creates a feeling of happiness – and thus security:

– Planning: His thoughts are directed at compiling an exiting schedule full of happiness stimulating highlights. This makes unhealthy 7 a restless organizer for colorful, extraordinary group activities, which he simultaneously runs and “enjoys”.

– Situational: He compulsively sets his focus to things that bring him instant gratification: bright, loud, beautiful, exiting and new things. Thereby, it becomes apparent that his attention serves this purpose in an exclusive way: concentrating on constant and trivial things out of necessity is not only hard but very stressful to him. The reason for this is that he feels like his security is in jeopardy (keyword: ADD).

-Inspiration: In order to maintain a constant flow of new enjoyable experiences, he’s always on the prowl for inspiration and scans his environment for for sources of it.

Because a type 7 in storm state depends on stimulation with happy thoughts, he not only manipulates his own thoughts but also acts as a charming thought-policeman towards others. Happiness-stimulating thoughts are good, are being thought and encouraged in others – with missionary zeal. On the other hand, thoughts concerning the more “boring”, earnest or even darker aspects of life are attacked instantly. Unhealthy type 7 uses them to prove his ability to change them into something “positive”.

The bandwidth of impacts on others thereby ranges from somewhat exhausting encounters, in which one gets coached unasked with attitude correcting success-thoughts, over the many rather harmless books on “positive thinking” to more serious situations where sick sevens manage to gather large crowds of followers by indoctrinating them with a unique but short-sighted success ideology.

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List 7 TA

Thinking type 7 in storm state distances himself from the consequences of his actions, from responsibility. Especially, this comes to light in committed relationships, where it comes down to be there for each other in good times as in bad. As this is perceived as very stressful by the unhealthy seven, they take flight as soon as the relationship seems to demand for commitment. The following wedding scene depicts in an exaggerated way, what happens as a literal flight in romantic relationships and as a flight into work – oftentimes resulting in workaholism.

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List 7 FF

Type 7 amplifies feelings of happiness and identifies with them. Therefore, he approaches others in an exceptionally charming and endearing way. In his unhealthy state, this is done only to the degree in which it serves his hedonism. Therefore his accented emotionality reveals to be of strikingly egoistic character in the long run.

The interpersonal motto of an unhealthy seven: flirting yes, because it means thrilling instant gratification; commitment no, because the needs of another person interfere with his sophisticated excitement schedule.

This is how a feeling type 7 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there for them. A person who functions like this restlessly jumps from event to event, and if they happen to be there physically, their thoughts are already with the next spectacle instead of with the life of their children. These kids feel their impassive flight from responsibility and get manipulated to support this parent’s excitement addiction as means to this end.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who’s never really there? To someone who checks out as soon commitment is required? Someone whose emotionality is all about his own instant self gratification at the bottom line? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: ADD/ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

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All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “Catch Me If You Can” (2002) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: DreamWorks Pictures

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Local – Storm Warning: 7

Local – Storm Warning: 6

Thinking Type 6: “The Skeptic”
Orientation: Thinking
Expression: Acting and Feeling
Subordinate: own Thinking
Seeks: Security
Short circuits in storm state:
Thinking – Thinking
Feeling – Acting

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As with the other thinking types, the childhood distress for the “skeptic” was a lack of safety. The environment of the child was full of uncertainty. Their caregivers oftentimes acted in frighteningly unpredictable ways and the infant could not depend on them. Promises were broken, knowledge withheld and their perceptions unvalidated. On the factual level there was no stability and his arguments were rejected and twisted by “the powerful ones” – logic was no safe place. Thus, the development of their own identity was in threatened. Thinking type 6 is the one whose psyche dealt with this problem by suppressing this level – he distanced himself from thinking (TT). The problem of endangered identity was solved, but with a side effect: the lost sense of identity. To compensate this lack of self-confidence, the two other short circuits came to aid: The empowerment of acting (FA) and the control over feelings (AF). THE-SOCIAL-NETWORK-Vertical-PosterAs soon as this pattern exceeds its function of childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if a person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. In the following, Jesse Eisenberg playing Mark Zuckerberg in “The Social Network” (2010) will serve as an example of a thinking type 6 with storm warning.

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List 6 TT

With his primary short circuit, thinking Type 6 distances himself from thinking (TT). This may seem paradoxical as he’s the one with the most “brainy” appearance of all. But just like feeling type 3 who because of his distance towards his inner feelings powerfully emphasizes on the external level of feeling as a way to compensate the inner loss, thinking type 6 does not speak about his inner personal thoughts but about “sampled” external ones: He talks about things and information, quotes social critics and gets lost in narratives and lamentations about important turning points in world history.

But when it comes to his own history, it’s not like that. In conversation with him it seems as if one would speak to a person without a past. It’s this area – the one of his identity – from which he distances himself. The loss of his sense of identity is compensated with an extraordinarily active protective layer which is composed of thousands of complex external thoughts. Thus, thinking type 6 in storm state becomes intangible and core-less.

It’s not only his inner Logic from which he distances himself but also from potentially personal thoughts that are expressed towards him. By default he’s doubtful about the sincerity of his interlocutors. At times this is expressed as a direct questioning of motives, at other times as an arrogant “whatever”-attitude in which he doesn’t listen to what is said.

Thinking Type 6 is the one with the strongest gender differences. The reason for this lies in the side-effect of identity-loss in his primary short circuit. This lost identity now is re-assembled differently in men and women: men tend to compensate it more via the area of action – competition, work, achievements; women via the area of emotions – sexual attractiveness, “collecting” prospects, social status.

Thus, of the following short circuits, the first one is more dominant in men (FA), the second in women (AF).

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List 6 FA

“Threatened identity? i don’t care. And anyway, we’ll see in the future” said the psyche of the child and threw themselves into acting. And so does the adult 6 in storm state: He amplifies his actions and own will, his assertiveness and identifies with his accomplishments. He enforces the competitive spirit to the extent necessary to restore the lost feeling of self-confidence.

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List 6 AF

Thinking type 6 in storm state treats relationships and feelings like things. He compulsively needs to establish control over them which he exercises in a sometimes unscrupulous manner. He actively adapts his relations to other people to his addiction for self-confidence and uses his friends as means to this end.

This is how a thinking type 6 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there for them. A person who functions like this shows no identity and thus denies their children the needed orientation. Instead, they withdraw into an elitist expert-world and views them as business cards whose job is it to serve their self-confidence by representing their intellectual greatness.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who keeps his identity out of the relationship and distrusts everyone? To someone who depends on maintaining his sense of self-confidence by constantly competing with you intellectually? Someone who’s not able to relax unless he controls the feelings in a relationship and treats people as tools? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: Asperger Syndrome, Autism, Schizoid Personality Disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

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All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “The Social Network” (2010) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: Columbia Pictures

Local – Storm Warning: 6

Local – Storm Warning: 5

Thinking Type 5: “The Observer”
Orientation: Thinking
Expression: Feeling
Subordinate: own Acting
Seeks: Competence
Short circuits in storm state:
Feeling – Thinking
Acting – Acting

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With thinking type 5, we now leave the emotionally oriented types and visit the “thinkers”. In storm state, those are the cerebral narcissists. Their childhood distress was lacking security: The development of their identity was threatened. Thinking type 5 is the one who solved this problem by enforcing his thinking (FT). In order to deal with the chaos in his environment, to figure out what’s important an what not and avoiding losing himself in the mess, he withdrew into his head, thought about it and sorted his experiences and feelings. His two other short circuits supported this withdrawal: distancing from feeling (TF) and controlling actions and needs (AA).lolita_ver4_xlgAs soon as this pattern exceeds its function of childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if a person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. In the following, the character Humbert in “Lolita” (1997), played by Jeremy Irons serves as an example of a thinking type 5 with storm warning.

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List 5 FT

Thinking type 5 in storm state retreats into his head. He amplifies his thinking, takes a very distanced position and looks at the events “from the outside”. From there, he gathers information which he processes instantly if possible or later if necessary. Although he may seem “there”, although you seem to get some emotional and reactionary feedback from him, this has nothing to do with him as a person. While his soul is sitting silently in his head, actions and emotions are running on autopilot. With his Feeling – Thinking short circuit, he enforces his detachment. He enforces his ability to recognize logical coherence and drawing conclusions in order to tidy up the chaos – this ability was of great help to survive his childhood.

Thus a thinking type 5 with storm warning constantly lives in mental cutback and his only perspective seems to be the retrospective. His conduct of life is lacking his conduct. He allows others to make his decisions and opportunistically takes what he can get along the way without playing a role in the process of life.

This distanced way of life is illustrated by the following scenes. Humbert gets informed by his landlady: she wants to marry him and if he stays, he agrees. Because Humbert is secretly interested in her daughter, he stays and marries. His true thoughts and feelings about his new wife are written down and locked away inside his desk. As she finds the key, his interpersonal double-life is exposed. This flight into a secretive detached mental world is typical for a thinking type 5 with storm warning.

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List 5 TF

To support the main short circuit – to remain undisturbed while drawing his conclusions – Humbert distances himself from feeling. This doesn’t necessarily mean he seems robotic. But in storm state, his feelings have nothing to do with him as a person or his values. He hides behind a characterless in-tune mask. Thus, he turn himself into a emotional marionette who doesn’t get it if someone is playing with him on this level. Here, he is totally suggestible and emotionally “survives” from what he can get coincidentally. This short circuit is observable as a fawning dependence which can develop into obsession.

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List 5 AA

Humbert controls actions and needs. And because, as a type 5, this short circuit serves a detached way of life, it is expressed mainly in passive forms and is directed inward: he adjusts his own wants according to what fits the environment and aims at getting his hidden needs met somehow in the long run. He “lies with his gut” and acts as if the wants of others were also his own. This is expressed big and small flatteries and sometimes in more dramatic ways in which he is able to instantly adapt his will and anger to changing circumstances.

This is how a thinking type 5 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there for them. A person who functions like this may have lots of theoretical ideas of “a good upbringing”. But it’s impossible to them to emotionally care for their children and foster their autonomy. Instead, they are emotionally dependent on their kids and expect them to supply the security they missed in their own family. Like this they reverse the familial chain of providence and thus damage their children’s psyche.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who lives in a secretive mental refuge? To someone who detaches emotionally and makes themselves dependent? Someone whose wants are not their own but adapt to the surroundings like a chameleon-like war tactic? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: Dependent Personality Disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder, Codependency.

Sunny greetings


All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “Lolita” (1997) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: Pathé, The Samuel Goldwyn Company

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Local – Storm Warning: 3

Feeling Type 3: “The Achiever”
Orientation: Feeling
Expression: Thinking and Acting
Subordinate: own Feeling
Seeks: Success
Short circuits in storm state:
Thinking – Feeling
Acting – Acting

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Also feeling type 3’s childhood distress was coldness – the supply of emotional warmth was not guaranteed. Thus the childhood problem was on the emotional level. Feeling type 3’s internal solution to this problem was to distance himself from his feelings (TF). With this primary short circuit, a lot was lost: his sense of self. To compensate this loss, the two secondary short circuits did their part: the identification with thinking (FT) and aggressive dominance over the action realm (AA).

American_Beauty_posterAs soon as this pattern exceeds its function childhood self-protection and a person gets triggered back into it as an adult, there is storm warning. And if the person is permanently trapped in it, it is considered a personality disorder. As an example of a feeling type 3 with storm warning, let’s have a look at the character Carolyn Burnham in “American Beauty” (1999), played by Annette Bening.

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List 3 TF

Feeling type 3 in storm state seems paradox. On one side, he expresses himself in a remarkably emotional way. On the other hand, he is emotionally unavailable. He lacks the capacity to tune into deep feelings, be it their own or those of others. In his presence, you don’t feel seen and can’t see him. That’s because of his primary short circuit (TF) – because hi distances himself from feeling.

All you can see is a carricature-like mask that projects success. As long as you resonate with this mask and pretend not recognizing it, all is well. But as soon as you dare to expect humanity, you are in trouble.

In the following scene, Carolyn “comforts” her daughter Jane who has just withdrawn from a parental fight. But as Jane refuses to play along with the you-are-a-fantastic-mother script,  the put-on “empathy” ends and daughter now has to comfort mom.

This self protection by distancing from the feelings comes with a high price: the sense of self. To compensate this loss, type 3 uses the two other functions, thinking and acting to acquire an artificial feeling of success. This emotional self-deceit becomes an addiction to which the other two short circuits cater.

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List 3 FT

Carolyn loves the thinking, amplifies and identifies herself with it. And because this short circuit serves to create a feeling of success, it is composed of thousands of groundbreaking success-thoughts, steps to certain triumph, which she compulsively tries to substantiate to herself and those around her. Type 3 in storm state loves success-mantras.

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List 3 AA

The second short circuit that serves to satisfy Carolyn’s addiction: she controls the level of action. Her own actions and those of others are things that have to be adapted to the goal – maximal felt success – at all times.

This is how a feeling type 3 with storm warning functions.

Why is this dangerous to families?
Because children depend on parents who are there. People who function like this, are emotionally dissociated from their children. Instead of caring for their feelings and inner worlds, They demand unaccomplisheably high standards and endanger the development of the child’s healthy autonomy by their control-addiction.

Why is this unsatisfactory in relationships?
For the same reasons. Although as an adult, one is not as dependent on the partner as a child is but the mutual happiness relies on the functionality of both. How can one relate to someone who’s emotional world is locked? To someone who is addicted to permanently lecturing others on absurd recipes to success and controlling their behavior? It is possible. But it’s unsatisfactory.

What helps?
For Families: Family-Systems Therapy
For Couples: Couples Therapy
This description with the aid of the enneagram is not meant to serve diagnostically. This should by done by professionals alone. And there is also no key with which the types of the enneagram can be translated to the DSM definitions. At best, some hints can be made in which directions to seek: Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Dissociative Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder.

Sunny greetings


All clips shown in this post are quotations from the movie “American Beauty” (1999) and are used for the purpose of illustration only. The copyrights for this movie and its film poster belong to: DreamWorks Pictures

Local – Storm Warning: 3